OK so I feel like this is a question I get asked a lot and I have written about it before on our blog. However recently I feel like my life changed dramatically in the way that I think and react to work life balance + my business TULLY LOU.
With running a business its very easy to get caught up with the I am ‘’busy’’ statement which yes is the truth we are busy but so is everyone else right? I really try and catch myself when answering someone with “Oh I am so busy” I find it such a dicky answer like what makes me a better person than you when I say I am busy?
Running a business can be very addictive for someone like me with an A type personality it’s very easy to get caught up in the business and the stress of day to day tasks, working late at night + weekends. As sad as it is there is a point where it takes over your life. It slowly takes a toll on your mind, body and most importantly social lives. You slowly find yourself bleary eyed + sometimes not even interacting with another human that’s outside of your work place.
It wasn’t until recently that I decided this needed to change and quickly. I found myself in a bit of a scare. I had 2 major deadlines approaching and a legal issue that was sitting on our shoulders that I got myself so worked up and stressed. I woke up one Saturday morning in such a state that I was throwing up all day. I literally spent all day in bed and did not even have the energy to lift a finger. At the time I honestly just thought I had some weird ass stomach bug, but had no other symptoms I didn’t feel sick I just felt a little nauseas and couldn’t stop throwing up… turns out I was having an anxiety attack and let me tell you it was not fun and it really scared the F out of me.
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This is why finding a happy and healthy work/life balance is so important to me and not that it wasn’t before, however previously I thought that running a business was my life, it was my baby, but now I have stepped back a little it doesn’t take over my life like it used too and you know what running a business is going to have ups and down as does our own personal lives, it’s the way that I now choose to react to these situations or problems that is now going to change. Sarah my business partner told me the best quote a few weeks ago ‘‘Don’t let the business run you, you run the business’’ and to be honest when she told me this quote it honestly couldn’t have come at a better time for me. I now choose to put myself first, my friends, my health and social life. Once I leave that office I “try” to switch off as much as I can and yes there will be some nights where I am behind and work needs to be completed however its not like it used to be. I would sit on my laptop for hours on end trying to get stuff done and wake up in the morning grumpy and not rested and energized. I soon realized that the way I was living was making me stressed, anxious and not the best version of myself. This whole putting myself first is something I am working on its not easy and like I said before Its not easy especially when its your business and you want it to be successful but at the end of the day I choose my health and happiness over work and I have never felt so good about my work and life.